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6/10/2018

The “Sociopaths As Villains” Blog is replacing The “Bullying Bosses” Blog

Filed under: General — site admin @ 4:56 pm

Dear Folks, 

After intensive research, examination, and discussion, our perspective has broadened beyond bullies, abusers, and harassers generally to the sociopathic characteristics they all share. This is the focus of our newest reference book (in-progress), website, and blog, Sociopaths As Villains (SAV). We are currently in the developmental phase of this project, but The SAV Team is pleased to invite you, our Bullying Bosses subscribers, to enjoy a preview of the new blog and website by visiting SociopathsAsVillains.com.

Narcissism is a congenital disorder, a genetically defined birth defect. Bullying bosses are “narcissists”, and if they happen to engage in “behaviors that are aggressively antisocial,” the dictionary tells us they are also “sociopaths.” We more precisely define them as “sociopathic 301.81s.” They have been Mueller’s focus from the beginning. 

Sociopaths As Villains: A Writers Thesaurus (1,001 True Tells), SAV the book, is a mammoth undertaking, and despite being drafted and largely written (110,000 words written and edited so far), it could take another year or even two before we get it onto bookshelves. That’s okay. It’s a reference book. It gives us the time to make it right.

But with Donald Trump in the White House and Vladimir Putin in the Kremlin, the thesis underpinning SAV cannot wait that long. This is why we would like you to visit our website in-progress and follow the new SAV blog.

No, we will no longer be posting on the old Bullying Bosses blog. No need. Bosses who bully generally (not just the supervisors who can get aggressive on the odd day) are practicing sociopaths – and so we will continue to discuss this topic, and explore other related topics, on the new SAV blog. We look forward to your participation and feedback. Actually, we need your participation.

Respectfully,

The SAV Team

SociopathsAsVillains.com

7/21/2006

Advance. Retreat. Defend.

Filed under: General — site admin @ 12:31 pm

Self-empowerment is up to “the self.” No one else can accomplish this for you; the only way to get results is by taking responsibility. Besides, it feels a whole lot better this way. It really does. Don’t suffer needlessly.

Here are a couple of advice letters of mine that appear online in Toronto, at Franke James’ officepolitics.com.

An Expert Office Bully, Expert Advice:

This first one is my absolute favorite. The facts cover just about everything that might come up in a bullying drama. And it’s colorful to boot. Responding to this distressed young woman was altogether heartfelt. For me, it was her and my subtle humor that broke the tension. Humor need not be obvious, but it’s powerful. Here we go for “Ms. Cheer Leader:”

Target: …Given her affair with the senior manager, she acts like she is untouchable and pushes every button possible to get my goat. Most of my coworkers can’t believe she would turn on her “only” friend but personally I think I should have seen it coming… and more…

Robert: She is, right now, courting her special manager in the oldest of ways. You can be certain she is documenting every embarrassing detail. Geeeez! He can’t see it coming either…and more…

http://officepolitics.com/advice/?p=31

This second one is for a rather presumptuous manager. This guy was obviously so caught up in the “justice” of his cause, he took his complaints public. Probably not ever a good idea for a manager! Anytime you hear the word “justice” come up inside your brain, you’re in trouble-deep. Let it go. Be objective instead.

Manager: I had an outstanding reputation with my company as I had worked in a management position for 3 years. I was promoted to a higher management position… and more…

Robert: Dear Maligned Manager, You are seeking justice. That is understandable. It’s a community value most of us bring to work. And with your former colleagues, you are being rational about it. Documents. Witnesses. Evidence. In daily work life,…

http://officepolitics.com/advice/?p=220

And then, of course, here are some old favorites. I’m reposting them because they answer a lot of reoccurring questions.

Comment #1 (Analytical Tools): Ms. Cloudy is using the analytical tools described in “Bullying Bosses: A Survivor’s Guide.” E.g. maneuvering note cards representing elements into strategic formations. She wonders if she will ever be able to think strategically on her own?
Comment #2 (Physical Abuse): Ms. Anonymous is being physically abused by her work partner. What can she do?
Comment #3 (Courting & Bullying): David’s Bully courts him as if he was a “golden boy,” and then turns on him. His bully utilizes all three general types of bullying: isolating acts, official acts and twisting acts.
Comment #4 (Operative Effect): I report that Bullies lie and manipulate, maybe always. Caro asks what I mean when I suggest that an employee analytically discover the “operative effect” of a Bully’s spin in order to find the truth of the matter?
Comment #5 (Mental Health): Bullying has compromised Mr. Concerned’s mental heath.

Cheers,

Robert

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